I transitioned almost 30 years ago, and I have absolutely no intentions of ever changing my birth certificate, for pretty much all the reasons you list. It is not reality to change it, and I find it offensive to my core that trans people now want to "erase" their past selves so thoroughly! It's rude, not just to their parents, but also to themselves! I absolutely detest the phrase "dead name" to refer to one's birth name (as if the person I was is dead?...or never existed??? How disrespectful and insulting!). My birth name is not "dead" because *I* am not dead! To me, my birth name is sacred. I don't necessarily like to share it with everyone, but it does not offend me (nor does my birth sex; I have not had any gender identity-related surgeries, nor do I plan to. When I transitioned, the goal was always to take the LEAST amount of steps to find peace with our bodies and gendered places in the world).
Why stop at the sex marker and name? Why not be allowed to change the birth year? I feel like a 30 year old, not a 56 year old, so why not change my birth certificate to reflect that feeling? I can have surgeries to look younger and then don't want my false birth certificate (the one that says I'm 56) to be used to "out" me as older than I (believe I) appear and than I feel. Right?
You bet! I might kill myself if I have to look my age. Therefore, a slew of surgeries, along with fillers and hair extensions, are medically necessary for me. I know the tax payers and insurance premium payers won’t mind kicking in a little extra to make sure I’m happy!
Truth matters. Our delusional daughters will find this out the hard way someday. Falsifying official historical documents won’t change the fact that they were born and forever will be female.
Thank you for speaking out about this denial of truth. My daughter is given the right to lie about her sex, to declare to the world that she is “male”.
She changed her passport aged 18. The F for female was changed to M. A lie.
She took her birth certificate. I have a copy of the original document. Falsifying the reality of sex on birth certificates is a mockery of God the creator the author of truth. We are in battle against the father of lies (Satan).
Thank you for writing and sharing about this side of the transgender madness. Most people on the outside think that it's just kindness to let people live the way that they choose, but there is so much more to this complicated situation. It's only the parents, not the cheering activists, doctors and psychologists, that will be there to still love and pick up the broken pieces from this nightmare, when the truth and reality of biology come back into focus. Sending love, strength and courage on this devastating journey. You are not alone.
When the ideology encourages disregarding parents feelings or importance then choices like this don't cause any guilt to the child. I saw a documentary of a woman from Austria who was a child during WW2. She said one of the first things the Nazis did was separate the children from parents and diminish the important and influence of the parents. To the point children tattled on their parents for "wrong thought" crimes. We are at this point again in history. Breaking the nuclear family is how you control a society. Our enemies never had to invade with an army. They divided us from the inside. Even if we can turn this around, it will take years to undo the social destruction this has caused.
In a culture that values “lived experience,” why is a parent’s “lived experience” not included? Why are wishes and feelings more important than biological reality?
Because we’re cisheteronormative scum? Seriously, in our current culture, WHO the doer is is what matters most. The whole punching down thing. We parents are privileged, regressive baddies with no right to any kind of accommodation or validation.
100% agree. I can’t believe the states allow this without having both parents consent to the change.
My 28 year old son changed his first name almost 2 years ago and what is so crazy he left his male middle name. How messed up is that?
He’s in a cult. I 100% think he’s messed up and listening to all the wrong doctors who should have diagnosed him with depression. Please get this in the main media to show it’s not a real thing. You can’t change your sex.
What it comes down to is that truth has been sacrificed for an authoritarian ideology that has taken over much of our society . It is not just sad but anti human ! It is anti human to believe that you can change your sex ..nobody is “ born in the wrong body”! You are either male or female from conception till death.
To think otherwise is a mental illness. Believing in lies shows a lack of maturity. The Easter bunny and Santa Claus are fictions that children grow out of. Mature individuals accept their bodies and don’t question them endlessly.
I am against changing any official record that my daughter has; she’s always gonna be XX; chromosomes don’t change but most of all, God created HER. While she’s entrenched in this social contagion/cult, I pray that she does not go through with medicalization of any kind. I think I’d rather be dead first before she changes; IF she does, I can’t imagine how I’m gonna feel, God forbid.
So sad that parents have to go through this… like a death! Is that where “: deadnaming” comes from? .And yet your child is till alive though is a much diminished form.This cult is evil!
Our names are the 1st gift our mothers ever gave us (except life, of course.) To just throw that away is beyond disrespectful. May as well spit in her face. But they don't care anyway. If their mom has any objections to what they're doing, they will call her horrible names and walk away forever. I don't know how they are okay with themselves destroying the one person in the world who loves them unconditionally. They literally put their mother's through years of heartbreak the same as the death of a child. The mental and emotional toll it takes on them is devastating and debilitating. Some even take their parents grandchildren away, which is both child abuse and parental abuse. The parents not only have to watch their child be destroyed and disappear but they then lose their only connection to that child as well. It should be criminal.
I wonder how it’s legal to unilaterally change a legal document (one of the more important identification documents in the US) with my name on it without my participation.
I transitioned almost 30 years ago, and I have absolutely no intentions of ever changing my birth certificate, for pretty much all the reasons you list. It is not reality to change it, and I find it offensive to my core that trans people now want to "erase" their past selves so thoroughly! It's rude, not just to their parents, but also to themselves! I absolutely detest the phrase "dead name" to refer to one's birth name (as if the person I was is dead?...or never existed??? How disrespectful and insulting!). My birth name is not "dead" because *I* am not dead! To me, my birth name is sacred. I don't necessarily like to share it with everyone, but it does not offend me (nor does my birth sex; I have not had any gender identity-related surgeries, nor do I plan to. When I transitioned, the goal was always to take the LEAST amount of steps to find peace with our bodies and gendered places in the world).
Thank you for sharing your perspective with me.
Why stop at the sex marker and name? Why not be allowed to change the birth year? I feel like a 30 year old, not a 56 year old, so why not change my birth certificate to reflect that feeling? I can have surgeries to look younger and then don't want my false birth certificate (the one that says I'm 56) to be used to "out" me as older than I (believe I) appear and than I feel. Right?
You bet! I might kill myself if I have to look my age. Therefore, a slew of surgeries, along with fillers and hair extensions, are medically necessary for me. I know the tax payers and insurance premium payers won’t mind kicking in a little extra to make sure I’m happy!
Truth matters. Our delusional daughters will find this out the hard way someday. Falsifying official historical documents won’t change the fact that they were born and forever will be female.
I believe that falsifying a birth certificate is a felony.
Thank you for speaking out about this denial of truth. My daughter is given the right to lie about her sex, to declare to the world that she is “male”.
She changed her passport aged 18. The F for female was changed to M. A lie.
She took her birth certificate. I have a copy of the original document. Falsifying the reality of sex on birth certificates is a mockery of God the creator the author of truth. We are in battle against the father of lies (Satan).
Thank you for writing and sharing about this side of the transgender madness. Most people on the outside think that it's just kindness to let people live the way that they choose, but there is so much more to this complicated situation. It's only the parents, not the cheering activists, doctors and psychologists, that will be there to still love and pick up the broken pieces from this nightmare, when the truth and reality of biology come back into focus. Sending love, strength and courage on this devastating journey. You are not alone.
When the ideology encourages disregarding parents feelings or importance then choices like this don't cause any guilt to the child. I saw a documentary of a woman from Austria who was a child during WW2. She said one of the first things the Nazis did was separate the children from parents and diminish the important and influence of the parents. To the point children tattled on their parents for "wrong thought" crimes. We are at this point again in history. Breaking the nuclear family is how you control a society. Our enemies never had to invade with an army. They divided us from the inside. Even if we can turn this around, it will take years to undo the social destruction this has caused.
In a culture that values “lived experience,” why is a parent’s “lived experience” not included? Why are wishes and feelings more important than biological reality?
Because we’re cisheteronormative scum? Seriously, in our current culture, WHO the doer is is what matters most. The whole punching down thing. We parents are privileged, regressive baddies with no right to any kind of accommodation or validation.
100% agree. I can’t believe the states allow this without having both parents consent to the change.
My 28 year old son changed his first name almost 2 years ago and what is so crazy he left his male middle name. How messed up is that?
He’s in a cult. I 100% think he’s messed up and listening to all the wrong doctors who should have diagnosed him with depression. Please get this in the main media to show it’s not a real thing. You can’t change your sex.
I am working on it as are many other brave people. The tide is turning!
What it comes down to is that truth has been sacrificed for an authoritarian ideology that has taken over much of our society . It is not just sad but anti human ! It is anti human to believe that you can change your sex ..nobody is “ born in the wrong body”! You are either male or female from conception till death.
To think otherwise is a mental illness. Believing in lies shows a lack of maturity. The Easter bunny and Santa Claus are fictions that children grow out of. Mature individuals accept their bodies and don’t question them endlessly.
Truth does matter, but the gender woo woo crowd flap about ignoring it, ugh!!
I'm so sorry for your story, it's all too common 😢
Such an important aspect of this far-reaching disaster. I like your emphasis on facts, truth, and falsification.
Everything about this topic has gone too far, and the damage is profound and far reaching. It is time for a course correction.
100%!
I am so sorry for what you’re going through😣
I am against changing any official record that my daughter has; she’s always gonna be XX; chromosomes don’t change but most of all, God created HER. While she’s entrenched in this social contagion/cult, I pray that she does not go through with medicalization of any kind. I think I’d rather be dead first before she changes; IF she does, I can’t imagine how I’m gonna feel, God forbid.
I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it.
May God bless us and our children🙏
So sad that parents have to go through this… like a death! Is that where “: deadnaming” comes from? .And yet your child is till alive though is a much diminished form.This cult is evil!
Our names are the 1st gift our mothers ever gave us (except life, of course.) To just throw that away is beyond disrespectful. May as well spit in her face. But they don't care anyway. If their mom has any objections to what they're doing, they will call her horrible names and walk away forever. I don't know how they are okay with themselves destroying the one person in the world who loves them unconditionally. They literally put their mother's through years of heartbreak the same as the death of a child. The mental and emotional toll it takes on them is devastating and debilitating. Some even take their parents grandchildren away, which is both child abuse and parental abuse. The parents not only have to watch their child be destroyed and disappear but they then lose their only connection to that child as well. It should be criminal.
I wonder how it’s legal to unilaterally change a legal document (one of the more important identification documents in the US) with my name on it without my participation.
We all need to question the falsification of birth certificates.